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What’s with women and diamonds?
I keep seeing these commercials for that Jared Jewelry store. All of these commercials paint the picture that if a guy doesn’t buy his fiance a diamond that he’s some sort of deadbeat. I think it’s horrible because the majority of these diamonds are conflict diamonds.
I thought love was the important thing, not buying shiny rocks that Africans died to mine. Seems very wrong to me. You never see a women go and buy her fiance anything that costs so much and has so little utility.
My theory is that diamonds are really not that desirable by themselves, I think it’s social conditioning.
Even if they aren’t conflict diamonds, what’s the point? It’s a waste of money that could be spent on the wedding or the honeymoon! Cubic zirconia is just as good.
There’s probably less than 2% of conflict diamonds circulating in Canada or the United States. Reputable dealers won’t touch those diamonds with a ten foot pole. You’re pretty much guaranteed that if you go to a major chain you AREN’T getting a conflict diamond.
Not everyone chooses diamonds for engagement rings. Lots of women enjoy coloured gems, which are substantially more affordable. There’s women who don’t care for gems at all. If you’re worried about the cost of a diamond, speak with your future fiancee. If she’s completely in love with the idea of a diamond engagement ring, see if she will compromise on one of the 4 C’s (Colour, Clarity, Cut, Carat). You can get a very nice diamond with an amazing cut, decent colour and great clarity for cheap as long as the carat size is low. If you go to the jewellery store, you’ll notice all types of engagement rings, and the jeweller will even show you rings that are not designated for engagement. Women’s taste with jewellery varies.
The whole "3 month salary" thing doesn’t really apply anymore. For a lot of people, that means saving for a very long time. If you love someone and they love you, it shouldn’t matter what type of ring you propose to her with. Over time, as you make more money and become more financially stable, you can upgrade the ring later if you choose.
11 Responses to “What’s with women and diamonds?”
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October 2nd, 2009 at 6:34 pm
Dont listen to everything the commercials tell you…dangerous for your mind to do so.
You dont Have to buy your girl a diamond…in fact there are plenty of other options out there.
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October 2nd, 2009 at 6:55 pm
Very few diamonds are conflict diamonds.
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October 2nd, 2009 at 7:02 pm
I think it’s just a dream of some girls for her fiance to get her diamonds. But I think if you love someone, it wouldn’t matter what your fiance gives you, as long as he shows that he cares. I think the whole buying diamond thing orginiated somewhere in Europe where a prince bought a diamond for his fiancee. Then eventually, everyone got into it.
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October 2nd, 2009 at 7:23 pm
Cause she’ll have to
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October 2nd, 2009 at 8:01 pm
Well, they ARE pretty.
But no, I agree that diamonds are not the important part of a relationship. There is a large degree of social conditioning - you grow up being told that’s what happens, and women expect it because it’s what is done.
I think that it will be the same, though, with any kind of formal wedding traditions. If the tradition was for women to do something for their man, like a certain present, etc, men would be disappointed if their bride didn’t do it either.
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October 2nd, 2009 at 8:13 pm
What did you expect? They’re trying to sell their product, not an emotion. But for the record, my mom may have gotten a diamond (a small one, by the way), but she paid the down payment on her and my dad’s first house; I’d say they were about even.
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October 2nd, 2009 at 8:51 pm
I have to say my husband did by me an antique victorian diamond engagement ring and its the most expensive thing i own. I dont really collect or spend anything else expensive whereas my husband has a set of technic 1210 decks, pioneer cd j and 100s of records from over the time of our relationship. Which probably adds up to over £3000 so its not like he hasnt got anything for himself.
My ring is antique so it had already made so it hasnt harmed anyone as a conflict diamond. My jewellery is my favourite thing i own and i just like it. I dont spend money on clothes, havent got a car, dont spend loads of money on anything for myself so i think its ok for me to have my ring. We got a wedding to Jamaica on the cheap as we haggled.
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October 2nd, 2009 at 9:31 pm
The only diamond in my possesion is in my wedding ring (and he picked it out not me). I have no desire for them. If he feels compelled to buy me something, he can get me the whizbang chicken plucker (an electric chicken plucker).
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October 2nd, 2009 at 9:56 pm
There’s probably less than 2% of conflict diamonds circulating in Canada or the United States. Reputable dealers won’t touch those diamonds with a ten foot pole. You’re pretty much guaranteed that if you go to a major chain you AREN’T getting a conflict diamond.
Not everyone chooses diamonds for engagement rings. Lots of women enjoy coloured gems, which are substantially more affordable. There’s women who don’t care for gems at all. If you’re worried about the cost of a diamond, speak with your future fiancee. If she’s completely in love with the idea of a diamond engagement ring, see if she will compromise on one of the 4 C’s (Colour, Clarity, Cut, Carat). You can get a very nice diamond with an amazing cut, decent colour and great clarity for cheap as long as the carat size is low. If you go to the jewellery store, you’ll notice all types of engagement rings, and the jeweller will even show you rings that are not designated for engagement. Women’s taste with jewellery varies.
The whole "3 month salary" thing doesn’t really apply anymore. For a lot of people, that means saving for a very long time. If you love someone and they love you, it shouldn’t matter what type of ring you propose to her with. Over time, as you make more money and become more financially stable, you can upgrade the ring later if you choose.
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October 2nd, 2009 at 10:04 pm
I like diamonds because they’re pretty and sparkly. Yup, it’s that simple. He didn’t have to buy me a diamond because I never demanded such a thing from him. He chose to because he thought it would make me happy.
I see no problem here. The focus was on love rather than on the diamond. So your problem is……?
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October 2nd, 2009 at 10:46 pm
It is like guys and their cars. Guys like expensive cars to feel manly, girls like pretty diamonds to feel feminine.
And just like with guys and cars, these are both very generalised views. Not every woman cares about diamonds.
Also, most diamonds are not conflict diamonds. Before I bought a diamond (if I could ever afford it!) I would check where it came from, but Australia, where I live, has very high standards for that kind of thing.
xoxoxo
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